The best thing to calm the nerves for anyone is to be prepared! Don’t let your friends talk you into taking a nerve pill because I can assure you that won’t make for a very fun night. The first time you do anything is intimidating, right? Riding a bike, going to Kindergarten, working out at a new gym, kissing a boy, I could go on for days. This is just another first and it should be a little nerve-racking which increases the excitement and makes your adrenalin rush. The first thing you need to understand is that sex is NOTHING like the movies! You don’t roll around on top of each other with the sheets perfectly covering you and then stand up still wrapped in the sheet with perfect hair and makeup. The first time will be slightly awkward so you might want to talk to your fiance beforehand about your nerves. This alone should help you feel more comfortable and I’d say he will too. If you all have experimented with foreplay before your wedding night, I would recommend that you start off with that same stuff that you are both used to in order to ease into the act. Remember, he’s going to be just as nervous as you and most guys aren’t going to prepare themselves, so you’ll probably have to take the lead on these things. If he tries to move too fast into sex, just gently slow him down. I’m sure he’ll appreciate it later!
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