Our relationship has become predictable and mundane. I love my fiance, but I want our relationship to be more exciting! What do I do?

The first thing you do is accept that he isn’t going to be the one to make it more exciting and realize the task is likely going to fall onto your shoulders.  It’s not that he wants it to be mundane by any means, men just typically aren’t the ones that see a need for change in a relationship unless it has to do with the bedroom acrobatics or your cooking.  The second thing you do is figure out what it is that you want to be more exciting and less predictable.  Is it that you want to go more places, try new things in the sack, or start a hobby together?  Sit down and create a list of things you would like to do.  This could take days to finish and that’s fine.  The more, the better!  After you’ve determined exactly what it is in your all’s relationship that you want to be more exciting and you’ve compiled your list, then it’s time to share this with him.  I strongly suggest that you choose a time to have this conversation when he has no access to the TV or his phone so he’ll actually give you his full attention and not be distracted by ESPN or that friend that seems to always call or text right in the middle of the important stuff.  Tell your fiance that you’ve been doing some reading and found out that monotony is one of the biggest killers of marriages and you don’t want the two you to be just another statistic.  Share your list with him and ask for his input and ideas.  After the list is finished, number each item in the order that you all plan to complete it.  Make a decision on how many of these you plan to carry out each week, month, or year in order to stay on a schedule, which will lead to better follow through.  Once this is all complete, it’s all about holding each other accountable for carrying out the items on the list together.

Quick Tip:  If you’re not the two most creative people in the world, get a school coupon book and start working through it from A-Z.  There are tons of different restaurants and places to go so you should have more than enough to choose from and you’ll save money at the same time that can be used for the wedding.  

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